Casual sex is supposed to be exciting and fun and not have a laundry list of parameters to follow, right? We're not asking for you to break out the silk sheets or feed us breakfast the next morning although, if you're looking to turn a casual sex partner into a steady hook up, some homemade pancakes never hurt in sealing that deal. But there are a few musts that we expect you to follow when we're hooking up just for fun. We asked a few experts and some real women who are into more casual affairs for their take on what they want from men when they're engaging in this type of scenario.
Read on for what they had to say about the rules for casual sex. It may sound like a no brainer. But Kassie, 27, says she's shocked at how many times she's been in a situation where the guy didn't have one — or think it was necessary to use. Sex and relationship expert Dr.
Kat Van Kirk agrees, and says that bringing just one condom is not enough. As in, don't have one eye on her, and one on your phone — as was the case for a recent hook up for Laura, After all, you might want to see them again.
And don't be afraid to use it. It will make it a smoother experience for both parties involved. Eventually I asked him about lube, and it was only then that he pulled it out. Guys, don't be shy about this stuff. If you see us spitting like llamas in order to keep things going and you have a full bottle of whatever lube you use to jerk off you should offer it up!
It will make sex more enjoyable for everyone. Enthusiastic consent means getting a clear "yes" not only on the sex you're having, but a yes on each new act that the two of you take part in throughout the duration of the hook up. And we get it — asking, "Is this OK? But Candace, 29 says that a heads up on what you're about to do as you both move through the motions is a must. It's not simply 'no means no anymore,' it it now 'yes means yes. While there are plenty of methods for finding a hook up, Samantha, 26, says that one of them should never involve being dishonest about your intentions.
We slept together that night — and then from there he proceeded to hit me up whenever he was just trying to get some action. And the thing is, I would have been happy to have him as just a hook up buddy.
He was hot and the sex was great. But the fact that he put this whole act on in order to get there just rubbed me the wrong way. I never saw him again. If you eventually want more than just a hook up, you need to communicate that. Don't make promises, especially when you know you probably can't keep them.
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